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How to Respond When a Relative Misgenders Your LGBTQ+ Child at a Holiday Gathering[DAY 5]

How to Respond When a Relative Misgenders Your LGBTQ+ Child at a Holiday Gathering[DAY 5]

Update: 2025-12-19
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DAY 5

MORE HUMAN MOMENTS FOR THE MOST WONDERFUL (AND COMPLICATED!) TIME OF THE YEAR!

12 Tiny Rebellions to Counter Holiday Chaos

You're at the holiday table. Your child walks in. A relative misgenders them on purpose. The room freezes, your heart races, and you feel that internal tug between protecting your child and keeping the peace.

In this holiday capsule episode, Heather Hester shares a grounded, loving framework to handle this common but painful moment with grace. You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, speak up with clarity, and model fierce allyship without fueling the fire.

You’ll walk away with:

  • A 3-step response formula: Pause, Protect, Pivot
  • Grounded language to correct misgendering without escalating
  • A powerful Breath of Safety ritual to calm your nervous system and release shame
  • Journaling prompts to support your courage and confidence in real time

Your Strategy: Prepare one neutral corrective sentence (e.g. “We use they/them for Riley”) + a pivot phrase (e.g. “Let’s move on”)

Your Ritual: Try the 3-part Breath of Safety

  • Inhale: My love protects → Exhale: Shame is not mine
  • Inhale: My clarity guides → Exhale: Their reaction is theirs
  • Inhale: We belong → Exhale: We are okay

Journal Prompt: What does courage look like for me in moments like this?

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Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!

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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.

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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast and space where a mom and mental health advocate offers guidance on parenting with empathy, inclusion, and open-minded allyship, fostering growth, healing, and empowerment within the LGBTQ community—including lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer individuals—while addressing grief, boundaries, education, diversity, human rights, gender identity, sexual orientation, social justice, and the power of human kindness through a lens of ally support and community engagement.



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How to Respond When a Relative Misgenders Your LGBTQ+ Child at a Holiday Gathering[DAY 5]

How to Respond When a Relative Misgenders Your LGBTQ+ Child at a Holiday Gathering[DAY 5]